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You’re not broken. You’re layered.
And your story makes sense.


I specialize in helping individuals and couples navigate the intimate, emotional, and relational aspects of their sex life with compassion, clarity, and depth. Whether you're untangling old patterns or reaching for something more aligned, our work is about supporting your wholeness, not fixing you.

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Sex is MORE than a physical act, it’s emotional, psychological, relational, and spiritual.

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Tired of not having the sex life you deserve?

Have you been suffering with any of the following anxiety symptoms?

  • Desire discrepancies and low libido

  • Performance anxiety, shame, or guilt around sex

  • Erotic self-discovery and sexual identity development

  • Trauma healing related to touch, consent, or body image

  • Reigniting pleasure and intimacy in long-term relationships

  • Exploring kink, fantasy, and non-traditional expressions of sexuality

  • Reclaiming erotic connection as a form of empowerment

Who it’s for: Anyone feeling stuck, ashamed, curious, disconnected, or ready to feel more alive in their sexual self.

YOU’RE NOT ALONE.
a connected, safe, sensual sex life is possible!

Whether you're here to heal, grow, explore, or transform, I am here to support the truth of who you are and the relationships you’re ready to build.

Let’s begin where you are—and go from there.

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Is Sex Therapy Right for You?

Life presents us with a myriad of challenges that can impact our well-being and relationships. Whether you're struggling with difficulties in your personal life, navigating life transitions, or facing challenges related to intimacy, sexuality, or feeling different, I'm here to support you on your journey towards healing and self-discovery.

My goal is to help you uncover your true potential, listen to your inner wisdom, and create a life that is authentically yours.

Are you experiencing any of the following?

  • Low sexual desire

  • Infidelity or mismatched desires

  • Physical or emotional sexual pain

  • Erectile dysfunction or concerns about ejaculation

  • Delayed or impaired orgasms

  • LGBTIA-related health concerns or curiosity

  • Sexual trauma or anxiety around sex and sexuality

  • Exploration of diverse sexual behaviors, relationship configurations, or non-heteronormative expressions

Perhaps you're:

  • Navigating alternative relationship structures like ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, or kink

  • Living single, co-parenting, or building chosen families

  • Dissatisfied with your current sexual intimacy or facing challenges in communicating your needs

  • Struggling with performance anxiety, sexual pain, or low libido

Let's Explore These Questions Together

If you're ready to embrace a path towards greater self-understanding, healing, and empowerment, I invite you to reach out. Together, we can navigate these challenges and create a life that is more fulfilling and aligned with your true self.

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What to expect from sex therapy.

In session, a sex therapist will work to help a person or couple seeking help achieve an improved mental and emotional state in order for them to enjoy a more satisfying sexual experience and/or relationships. Sessions are strictly instructive and verbal, and all exercises and that involve physical contact are performed outside of the session. Sex therapy does not involve having sex with the therapist or being forced to have sexual contact with anyone else.

Therapists may, as part of the process, encourage those in treatment to consider participating in certain intimate activities or exercises with their partner, but a person is never made to do so as part of therapy. Sex therapy is largely a mental and emotional reflection of one’s own internal conflicts, concerns, and/or questions about sex. I tell my clients that often times it is not the “answer” we are looking for right away, but the right “questions” to ask as you move through your journey. Once that is found, our answers are soon to follow usually.

  • Most clients begin with weekly sessions to build momentum. Over time, we may move to biweekly or monthly check-ins, depending on goals and progress. Intensives and retreats can also be scheduled as standalone experiences or adjuncts to ongoing therapy.

  • Your first session is a collaborative conversation, a chance to discuss what’s bringing you to therapy, explore your goals, and begin identifying the patterns or dynamics at play. It’s normal to feel nervous or unsure; our priority is to create a safe, non-judgmental space where you can start to feel seen and supported.

  • Yes. Individual therapy can help you clarify your needs, strengthen boundaries, and communicate more effectively, even if your partner isn’t ready for couples work. Many relationships begin to shift when one person changes their patterns with awareness and intention.

  • Not at all. Sex therapy is also for people who want to deepen pleasure, connection, and self-understanding. It’s a space to talk about desire, boundaries, erotic identity, and body image in an open, shame-free way.

  • Absolutely. Dr. Adrian Scharfetter is affirming, inclusive, and knowledgeable about diverse relationship styles and sexual expressions. We meet clients where they are, without judgment, and tailor therapy to each person’s values and experiences.

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