We all have to face numerous challenges that life throws at us. Whether it is difficulty with a loved one, challenges around life transitions or upsetting life circumstances, difficulty around intimacy, sexuality, and feeling “othered” due to these circumstances and identities. My goal is to help you uncover your true potential, listen to your own wisdom, and start leading a life that is more of your own making.

• Are you dealing with low sexual desire, infidelity, mismatched desires and needs, physical sexual pain, emotional sexual pain, erectile dysfunction, delayed or impaired orgasms, ejaculation concerns, LGBTIA health or curiosity, sexual trauma, embarrassment and anxiety in regard to sex and sexuality?

  Are you exploring types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions? Are you a single or a couple who may be exploring or approaching issues in alternative relationships and alternative family structures, including ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, kink, living single, co-parenting, and chosen family?

• Maybe you are not satisfied with what’s happening (or not happening) in your bedroom. You would like more sexual intimacy in your relationship with your partner but every time you ask for it, it blows up in your face. You are struggling with performance anxiety or sexual pain and you’ve been avoiding having sex all together. Is low libido or a sexual dysfunction keeping you from enjoying your sex life? Let’s explore these questions together!

If you see some way that I can be that person for you, please call or email me.

In session, a sex therapist will work to help a person or couple seeking help achieve an improved mental and emotional state in order for them to enjoy a more satisfying sexual experience and/or relationships. Sessions are strictly instructive and verbal, and all exercises and that involve physical contact are performed outside of the session. Sex therapy does not involve having sex with the therapist or being forced to have sexual contact with anyone else.

Therapists may, as part of the process, encourage those in treatment to consider participating in certain intimate activities or exercises with their partner, but a person is never made to do so as part of therapy. Sex therapy is largely a mental and emotional reflection of one’s own internal conflicts, concerns, and/or questions about sex. I tell my clients that often times it is not the “answer” we are looking for right away, but the right “questions” to ask as you move through your journey. Once that is found, our answers are soon to follow usually.

Some types of therapy are very goal focused, step-by-step process, or CBT style of therapy. My orientation is less goal oriented and more process oriented, meaning I do not set a certain number of sessions for us to have all the work done in. I do not dictate or push you in any direction, rather allow a natural flow and gentle openness to happen in the therapeutic dynamic. You know best how to heal “You,” and I am your support in that journey. I may ask questions, give some readings, some homework from time to time, or exercises to do at home, but I never come at the issuing from a place of thinking I know more than you about you. I am a deeply Person-Centered/Humanistic process therapist with some Emotionally Focused, Solutions-Focused, Internal Family Systems, and Depth/Jungian psychology from time to time, if that helps understand my frame I work from.

Also, as a Sex Therapist, there is a moral and ethical obligation that I strictly follow in regards to treatment, safety, dual relationships, and confidentiality as well as professional capacity to help. AASECT has this listed out in their Code of Conduct and is free to read about if you have any questions or concerns. I do not engage in touch, sexual conduct, or interpersonal relationships with any clients.

Keep in mind that my main goal is to help you find the best treatment for your problems you are seeking help with. That may not be with me at times due to specialization focus, and I may need to refer you out to a colleague who may specialize in a very specific need you are having trouble with. I will be honest, respectful, and help you find the right fit and give you options.

I believe therapy is one of your most critical choices in your journey, and one that could be specialized in your growth and healing. The work that I focus on allows for a greater capacity to explore:

• Learning to navigate life transitions, especially around sex and sexuality

• Asking for what you need/want in the bedroom

• Developing the freedom to express your authentic self within intimacy and sexuality

• Understanding consent and consensual sex

• Recognizing barriers to romantic love and removing them

• Finding your voice and becoming free to speak your mind

• Connecting and/or reconnecting to your creative self

• Having more access to pleasure

• Building self-esteem

• Feeling less isolated

• Replacing depression with a wider range of feelings and experiences

• Developing skills to cope with anxiety

What I cannot do

Sometimes people come into therapy with an expectation that I can “fix” them or their relationship, or make someone want more/less sex. That is not what I do. As a therapist I cannot make someone want sex if that is not what they are wanting, nor can I make someone less sexual, watch less porn, or work from a guilt/shame space around intimacy and sexual needs. I work from a humanistic perspective in my practice, meaning I hold space for ALL parts of the individuals I work with and help find solutions that are helpful, but I do not look at people as “broken” and needing to be “fixed,” nor do I tell people what they should do or give advice.

I can, and do, help people who want to understand sex and sexuality, look at out-of-control sexual behaviors, understand their own boundaries as well as their partner(s), and explore consent within their relationship(s). I explore possibilities and curiosities, and empower my clients to make their best decisions with the knowledge that they gain within our work. This journey is all about developing healthy communication skills (and yes, sex IS communication!) and understanding how to know what you want for yourself as well as within the relationship. Example: If someone in the relationship is just not into it anymore, that is what we would be exploring first and foremost.

Values:

1. Inclusivity: I welcome clients of all backgrounds, orientations, and identities with respect and empathy.

2. Empowerment: I empower individuals and couples to explore their desires, overcome obstacles, and cultivate fulfilling relationships.

3. Authenticity: I believe in the importance of authenticity and self-discovery, encouraging clients to embrace their true selves without judgment.

4. Compassion: I approach therapy with compassion, understanding, and non-judgmental support, creating a safe space for healing and growth.

5. Collaboration: I collaborate with clients to co-create personalized treatment plans that honor their unique needs and goals.

Therapeutic Orientations

As a therapist, I strive to fit the work with the client’s needs. This, at its core, relies on creating a safe, trusting container for the client to explore their needs, thoughts, dreams, and issues that they come to work on. The various therapeutic lens that I use help hold that container so they have all tools available at their disposal. My main therapy orientations I utilize moves through Humanistic, Relational, and Mindfulness based practices, with Depth (Jungian), Internal Family Systems, and at times Somatic based approaches such as Hakomi.

Humanistic Therapy
Humanistic psychology (humanism) is grounded in the belief that people are innately good. This type of psychology holds that morality, ethical values, and good intentions are the driving forces of behavior, while adverse social or psychological experiences can be attributed to deviations from natural tendencies. Self actualization is the key here.

Mindfulness Based Therapy
Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) combines cognitive behavioral techniques with mindfulness strategies in order to help individuals better understand and manage their thoughts and emotions in order to achieve relief from feelings of distress.

Relational Therapy
Relational psychotherapy, an approach that can help individuals recognize the role relationships play in the shaping of daily experiences, attempts to help people understand patterns appearing in the thoughts and feelings they have toward themselves.

With all three of my orientations, my goal is that we work together, and I see you as a human, and someone who shares common goals, aspirations, and desires that a majority of us have. By viewing the 'whole' you and how you relate to your world, I gain a clear understanding and capacity to work with you to create a safe space to do the work together. I am right there with you every step of the way.

I offer ally focused, inclusive, socially aware and progressive, sex positive, non-shaming therapy for all individuals regardless of race, orientation, gender, or disability.

I am also a Veteran and offer compassionate and and conscious therapy for Veterans and their family.