Online Therapy for individuals in California

Individual Therapy for When Something Feels Off, Even If You Can’t Name It Yet

You don’t need to have all the answers to begin. Together, we’ll explore what’s happening inside and help you move forward with more confidence and self-trust.

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Individual Therapy

Whether you're curious about your sexual identity, struggling with desire, or carrying shame or past hurt, individual sex therapy offers you a safe space to explore what sexuality means for you. If you're dealing with low libido, performance anxiety, or the weight of past trauma, you don't have to navigate it alone. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your erotic self in a judgment-free environment where you're truly seen and supported. Together, we'll help you move toward a more empowered, satisfying relationship with your own sexuality, one that feels authentic and fulfilling to you.

You may benefit from individual therapy if:

– You’re feeling disconnected from your desire, pleasure, or sexual identity

– You’re carrying shame, anxiety, or unresolved experiences around sex

– You want a supportive space to explore your sexuality, values, or relational patterns without judgment

– You wish to explore the reasons why things are not working in your sex life as they should, either emotionally, mentally, or physically. Sexual dysfunctions, low/high libido, relationship dynamics, and stage of life questions.

$200 per session

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Individual therapy is a space to look honestly at how you relate to yourself, others, and the world around you. Many people come to therapy because something isn’t working, emotionally, relationally, or internally, even if they can’t fully articulate it yet.

This work focuses on insight, accountability, and meaningful change. Together, we’ll identify long-standing patterns, explore the emotional roots beneath them, and develop new ways of responding that feel more aligned, grounded, and sustainable.

  • Clients seek individual therapy from Dr. Adrian Scharfetter for a wide range of reasons, including anxiety, burnout, relationship patterns, attachment wounds, identity exploration, sexual concerns, grief, life transitions, and personal growth. Often, it’s less about a single symptom and more about wanting to understand yourself more deeply and respond differently to life and relationships.

  • Dr. Adrian Scharfetter’s work is insight-oriented, relational, and depth-based. That means we look beyond surface symptoms to understand the emotional and relational patterns underneath them. Therapy is collaborative and thoughtful, focused on awareness, accountability, and meaningful change, not just short-term coping strategies.

  • Both. Insight is essential, but insight alone doesn’t create change. Sessions often include reflection, emotional processing, and relational exploration, alongside practical tools for regulation, communication, boundaries, and self-awareness that you can apply outside of therapy.

  • That’s more common than you might think. Therapy effectiveness often depends on timing, fit, and approach. If past therapy felt too surface-level, passive, or unstructured, this work may feel different. We’ll be clear about goals, patterns, and expectations from the start.

  • Dr. Adrian Scharfetter offers teletherapy for the state of California. Dr. Scharfetter has clients in San Francisco, Sacramento, Los Angeles, and San Diego, as well as the surrounding areas of each city.

Adrian Scharfetter, PhD, LMFT, CST-S offers individual therapy across California for adults navigating relationship anxiety, identity, sexuality, and personal growth through Athenian Counseling. With 15 years of experience, he works from an attachment-based framework with a sex-positive, kink-affirming, and LGBTQ+-inclusive lens. His approach is both rigorous and deeply human, helping individuals understand themselves more fully so they can live and relate with greater freedom.

  • AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

  • Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

  • Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor

  • Specialized in intimacy, desire, erotic conflict, and relationship repair

  • Online therapy throughout California

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