In session, a sex therapist will work to help a person or couple seeking help achieve an improved mental and emotional state in order for them to enjoy a more satisfying sexual experience and/or relationships. Sessions are strictly instructive and verbal, and all exercises and that involve physical contact are performed outside of the session. Sex therapy does not involve having sex with the therapist or being forced to have sexual contact with anyone else.

Therapists may, as part of the process, encourage those in treatment to consider participating in certain intimate activities or exercises with their partner, but a person is never made to do so as part of therapy. Sex therapy is largely a mental and emotional reflection of one’s own internal conflicts, concerns, and/or questions about sex. I tell my clients that often times it is not the “answer” we are looking for right away, but the right “questions” to ask as you move through your journey. Once that is found, our answers are soon to follow usually.

Some types of therapy are very goal focused, step-by-step process, or CBT style of therapy. My orientation is less goal oriented and more process oriented, meaning I do not set a certain number of sessions for us to have all the work done in. I do not dictate or push you in any direction, rather allow a natural flow and gentle openness to happen in the therapeutic dynamic. You know best how to heal “You,” and I am your support in that journey. I may ask questions, give some readings, some homework from time to time, or exercises to do at home, but I never come at the issuing from a place of thinking I know more than you about you. I am a deeply Person-Centered/Humanistic process therapist with some Emotionally Focused, Solutions-Focused, Internal Family Systems, and Depth/Jungian psychology from time to time, if that helps understand my frame I work from.

Also, as a Sex Therapist, there is a moral and ethical obligation that I strictly follow in regards to treatment, safety, dual relationships, and confidentiality as well as professional capacity to help. AASECT has this listed out in their Code of Conduct and is free to read about if you have any questions or concerns. I do not engage in touch, sexual conduct, or interpersonal relationships with any clients.

Keep in mind that my main goal is to help you find the best treatment for your problems you are seeking help with. That may not be with me at times due to specialization focus, and I may need to refer you out to a colleague who may specialize in a very specific need you are having trouble with. I will be honest, respectful, and help you find the right fit and give you options.