Basic Tantric Practices for Building Connections
So, you are looking for low impact ways of starting off building intimacy skills that are effective and deep? Tantra is a very powerful tool to start with, and even at the basic level, you can find a practice that holds a gentleness and focus that will start the journey. Here are three tantric exercises that can help deepen intimacy, connection, and sexual energy for individuals or couples:
1. Yab-Yum: The Union of Divine Masculine and Feminine
This is a classic tantric position designed to deepen emotional and spiritual connection through intimate physical touch.
Instructions:
Sit facing your partner with your legs wrapped around their waist or have them sit on your lap. Ensure both of you are in a comfortable seated position.
Both of you should maintain eye contact, breathing deeply and slowly together. Focus on synchronizing your breath.
Place your hands on your partner's heart center, while they place their hands on yours. You can also rest your hands on each other’s knees, thighs, or shoulders.
In this position, you may stay still for several minutes or move gently with your breath, allowing the energies to flow between you.
Visualize the meeting of your energies in the form of light or warmth, merging the divine masculine and feminine aspects of each person.
Benefits: This exercise cultivates deep connection, trust, and an exchange of energy between both partners. It also fosters mindfulness in the moment and can be grounding.
2. The Breath of Fire: Ignite Sexual Energy
This tantric breathing exercise helps to activate the sacral chakra and boost sexual energy.
Instructions:
Sit in a comfortable position with your spine straight and your hands resting on your knees.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Begin to breathe rapidly through your nose while pumping your belly in and out, keeping the breath short and sharp.
Focus on your lower abdomen and pelvic region, imagining the energy there igniting and rising with each breath.
As you continue the rapid breaths (20-30 per session), visualize a ball of energy growing in your sacral chakra, expanding through your body.
After a few minutes, slow your breath and return to deep, slow breathing. Rest in silence and feel the vibrancy of the energy within.
Benefits: This exercise increases vitality and sexual energy. It can be practiced alone or with a partner and is useful for enhancing awareness of sexual energy flow.
3. Eye Gazing: The Power of Presence
This simple yet powerful tantric practice enhances connection through eye contact, fostering intimacy and vulnerability.
Instructions:
Sit comfortably with your partner, facing each other.
Begin by gently breathing in sync, with slow and deep breaths.
Start to gaze into each other’s eyes without blinking. You may begin by softly smiling to relax into the connection, but maintain a calm, steady gaze.
Allow yourself to fully absorb the feeling of your partner’s presence, focusing on their energy, their essence, and the vulnerability of the moment.
If your mind begins to wander, gently bring your awareness back to your partner’s eyes, staying grounded in the experience.
You can extend the exercise for 5-10 minutes or longer, allowing the connection to deepen.
Benefits: This practice fosters emotional intimacy and trust. It can also be deeply healing, as it allows partners to see and be seen, enhancing the emotional bond.
